How to Get Your Ex Back

You’re sure you want to get your ex back. Whatever the reasons for the breakup, you truly believe in this man and this relationship, and you think you still have a chance of a great life together.

There are no guarantees that you will get your ex back, but there are some things you can do which will help you to achieve a reconciliation. The best relationships are made between two people who are not dependent on each other for their happiness. These people enlarge and enhance each other’s lives by being together. They don’t depend on each other for their sense of self-worth, or for having something to do at the weekend. This is the kind of relationship that will last.

If this is sounding good to you but a little vague, here are some ways you can improve your chances of creating a great life with your ex.

You want your ex back. This is probably an all-consuming thought. Does he still love you? Does he still think about you?

Not many people can shut their feelings off like a tap, so it’s more than likely that he does. It’s a funny thing that many of the signs that he still has feelings for you can often make a woman believe the opposite; that she has lost him for good.

If your ex is refusing to talk to you and telling you he doesn’t want to see you again, this is a good sign. It’s good because it means he still has strong feelings for you. Remember, the antithesis of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.

But right now, your relationship is making him feel imprisoned. And the more pressure you put on him, the more attractive the distant hills of freedom look to him, and the more determined he becomes to break free of his jail cell and escape. Every time you call or email him, he hears the sound of the jail door slamming behind him, and he feels trapped. So the most important thing for you to do right now is to stop chasing him.

Showing respect for his personal space is essential if you want to change his feelings about you.

Give him time to miss you, and for him to remember the good things about your relationship.

One thing you must try to avoid is obsessing over your ex. You are trying to distance yourself from your relationship so that you can gain clarity and perspective. So it’s important to follow the no contact rule.

This won’t be easy if you were in a long-term relationship, but you need to learn to live alone again. And you will only make it harder for yourself if you are thinking about him every other minute, constantly checking for phone for calls or messages and following him on social media.

You are going to rebuild your life by focussing on yourself. You are going to LIVE your life. That’s it in a nutshell. Do everything you can to make yourself feel better, happier and more confident. No matter how hard it is, you MUST make the effort to become your own best friend and take care of yourself, because no one else will do it for you.

This is the time to rediscover who YOU are, and to build a happy and satisfying life as a single woman.

Looking after your health and well-being should always be a priority. Exercise is vital and you should do some challenging physical exertion at least 3 times a week. If you are out of shape, you may need to devise a more intense exercise routine to get you looking your best. There’s no greater confidence boost than knowing you can stun your boyfriend when he sees how good you are looking.

Ditch the junk food. A balanced and healthy diet is vital if you want to look your best. It only takes a few weeks of eating good quality food for the effect to show through in your looks, with brighter skin and glowing vitality.

These things might be hard for you to do, but the sense of achievement you will get and the boost to your looks and confidence will be well worth the effort.

It’s also good to improve your mind. Read books and use the internet to enlarge your understanding and knowledge. Never stop learning, or adding to your skills.

Spend time with your friends and family. It’s important to bask in that warmth right now, and to know that they love and care about you. It will reconnect you to the person you used to be and help to fill the void left by your ex.

Accept invitations. Resist the temptation to stay home watching movies or replaying that sad song about heartbreak over and over. Knowing that you are not alone; and that you can still enjoy yourself will help you to cope with the aftermath of the breakup.

Make the effort to flirt with the men you meet. It’s good practice, and it’s good for your ego. And posting pictures of you having fun with other guys will be a wake-up call for your ex. But don’t make it look as if you’ve already found someone else, or started a new relationship. You want to make your boyfriend aware of the possibility, not to convince him that it’s actually happened.

Spend time on your favourite hobbies, or try something new and exciting that you’ve always wanted to do. This is great opportunity to take your life in a new direction and discover a new you.

Moving forward in your career is another way to add value to your life, and boost your confidence and self-worth. You can give all the time you need to work on a new project or promotion. Getting ahead will distract you from your troubles, and give you another focus for your ambitions.

If you are unhappy in your job, then now is the time to do something about it. This is an area of your life that you do have the power to change. Try to improve your current working conditions, or if that’s not feasible, then look for something new.

Don’t just let things fester; this can be a real opportunity for you. Decide how you can boost your career and act upon it. This can be a seminal moment for you.

What you have been trying to achieve is clarity.

Can your relationship be saved?

Is it worth saving?

All the work you have done so far is to enable you to be tough about confronting this question. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. Value yourself. When you value yourself, other people follow your lead. You become more luminous, more attractive, more desirable.

Is he a good man? Did he really make you happy, or did you just settle for what you thought you could get? You should be able to answer that truthfully now.

But remember that the most important transformation you can make is internal. If you spend time learning how to improve your relationship skills, you will be better equipped to build a successful relationship with your next boyfriend, whoever he may be. If you feel that you could use some help with this then please go and listen to this video. It will help you in the next stage of your quest to get your ex back.