Most of the people advocating online dating do so for a good reason – they met the love of their OWN life online. So of course they can only see it as the answer to everybody’s romantic problems. But lots of women just don’t see it like that. As far as you’re concerned, there are reasons as long as your arm why you don’t try online dating. So are you wrong?
Nowadays people do almost everything online. They pay their bills, order their food and clothes, and even get an education online – but they still don’t want to look for romance there. Why?
Well, romance is different. We can all see the advantages of shopping, getting information and managing our day-to-day lives online; but romance – love – is still the stuff of dreams. Can you really trust it to science and technology?
Well, perhaps not. After all, there’s always chemistry, isn’t there? But although chemistry is one of the foundations of romantic love, that doesn’t mean it can’t be helped along by technology, does it?
Maybe a bit of scientific matchmaking is just what you need to find The One. And if you don’t try online dating, you’ll never know, will you?
It’s a way of expanding your social circle without having to brave the bar and club scene. And if you’ve been telling yourself all about the excellent reasons why you don’t try online dating, then maybe your reasons are not as valid as you think.
1. It’s not safe
Think about that rationally. Why should it be any less safe than a blind date or meeting someone randomly in a bar? You can spend plenty of time chatting online before you decide to meet him, so you will have learnt lots about him before you ever do meet. You can also keep your personal information private until you feel comfortable revealing it, and agreeing to set up a date. Nowadays this really isn’t a convincing excuse for why you don’t try online dating.
2. I already meet lots of people
Even if that’s true, online dating can only add to it. It doesn’t mean you have to stop looking for love among the people you meet in your daily life; and even if you do have your eye on a few possible dates, there’s no guarantee that any of them will turn out to be Mr Right. Think of online dating as just another way to increase your chances of finding The One. No matter how many people you meet in your daily life, it’s not an excuse for why you don’t try online dating.
3. I’m too busy to date right now
You may be too busy to trawl bars or go to nightclubs, but everyone can find time to use the internet – and to meet someone they think is worth their time. Certainly it’s not a reason why you don’t try online dating. If your life is really full, then online dating is a very efficient use of your precious time, a use which could produce a very positive result. Commuting time, your lunch break and a few quiet minutes in the evening are all opportunities for browsing online profiles, and you can exchange messages from your smartphone at any time.
4. I’m not ready to start dating
That’s not a good reason why you don’t try online dating. Try signing up to some social groups first, and get a feel for what it’s like to meet men online. Remember that you can have as much or as little to do with them as you want, so you can take things at a pace you feel comfortable with. There are plenty of social sites and forums which are aimed at friendship and shared interests rather than dating. You can make some new friends, have some fun and be ready to jump into online dating with confidence when you feel ready.
5. It’s too expensive
That too is not a reason why you don’t try online dating; as many sites allow you to sign up and browse for free. You may have to pay to create your own profile, though, or to respond to profiles you like. But most charges are quite reasonable, although some very specialist or exclusive sites may charge a premium. Normally you would find yourself spending less than you would on a night out. And you may find it’s money far better spent too!
6. I’d find it difficult to trust someone I met online
Well, there is certainly more scope to be dishonest with someone when you’re not forced to meet them face to face. But the answer to that is to avoid prolonging online exchanges in favour of a face to face meeting. Remember, you can’t always trust someone you meet offline either, until you really start getting to know them. However you meet people, there is always the possibility that they will turn out to be duplicitous, irresponsible or flaky. In either case, you should trust what your instinct tells you, and if someone gives you a bad feeling or vibe, avoid them in future. It’s certainly not a valid reason why you don’t try online dating.
7. It’s just for nutters and weirdos
Any reputable dating site is jealous of its reputation, and they have safeguards to weed out people who cause upset or offence to their online community. And in their own interests, most people online are vigilant about reporting inappropriate or suspicious behaviour. You shouldn’t feel any less safe than you would in the street. After all, it’s equally possible that you will meet social misfits in a bar or a club. They don’t always hide away indoors all the time, and it’s not a good excuse for why you don’t try online dating.
8. Only the desperate resort to online dating
Once perhaps that was true, but not these days. All sorts of people all over the world are using online dating today, and many of them are just like you. They see it as a safe way to introduce themselves to people they would never otherwise meet, and who might become great friends or even the Love of Their Life. You can find people with similar interests who enjoy the same things you do, and you get to choose the people you want to meet. What’s not to like?
9. I’m too different/unusual/eccentric to find someone who shares my interests
If you really are a genuine one-off, then the internet is THE place to find someone who shares your originality. It’s the least convincing reason why you don’t try online dating. Not only can you include your unusual interests in your profile, but there are also dating sites online for all sorts of different cultural, spiritual, intellectual and physical interest groups. And if your niche isn’t yet covered – well, start your own!
10. I’m too old for online dating
Not today! People of all ages find themselves single these days, and you’re never too old to start again. Even people in their nineties have been motivated to surf the internet and find love online, and if they’re not too old, then neither are you. It’s certainly not a reason why you don’t try online dating. Life’s too short to pass up one of the best opportunities there is to find a new love.
There’s No Good Reason Why You Don’t Try Online Dating
All these excuses have been around for years, but we’re in the 21st century now and online dating is mainstream. Is there any good reason why you don’t try online dating? If you really do want to increase your chances of finding Mr Right, then the answer to trying it must be Yes.
Whatever you reasons for not having met the right man up to now, nobody is too busy to date. So give it a go and see for yourself the opportunities it can provide that will add to your chances of finding Mr Right.
Whenever I think about dating online, I just think “Tinder”! And I don’t want to do it.
Am I wrong? It there a way to avoid the “meat market” when you look for someone online? It just doesn’t seem like true romance to me.
Well, there are lots of options for dating online apart from Tinder! But I understand your feelings, and I too feel that Tinder wouldn’t be for me, although I know people who do find it a positive experience. Chacun à son goût!
But if you are keen to find love and a good relationship, then online dating is certainly an option to consider. There are dating websites for people of every kind of conviction and interest, so why not look for one that appeals to you? But there’s no reason to stop there. If you prefer the idea of relationships that evolve organically, why not join some social groups for your interests? As they are not specifically intended for dating, people are more relaxed and keen to get to know you because you already have things in common. If you don’t already belong, Meetup is a good place to start.